Friday, May 26, 2017

Tabsira#3: Yeh Raha Dil is falling flat as a pancake

I am upset that I had to write a Tabsira on Yeh Raha Dil because I seriously thought that the drama won’t get to that point of promoting such wrong morals.

Yeh Raha Dil airs on Hum TV (Monday at 8:00 PM). The main protagonist is Hayat (Yumna Zaidi) her mother has passed away and she is living all alone in a bungalow at Tariq Road Karachi. What I just said is bizarre enough but wait, there is more. So, Hayat trusts her friend Salman (Daniyal Afzal) & his wife Ragni (Hira Hussain) so much that she literally went to Nepal on a vacation they booked for her. There she met Zaki (Ahmed Ali), the likable rich boy who is dating Nida (Anam Ahmed) back home. And since these two are the main lead, destiny took some twists and turns and somehow, they became friends. Hayat’s friend Salman sold her house to some broker and went to an unknown place along with his equally mischievous wife. Let’s pause here for a while. Okay first things first, no-matter how brave or gutsy of a girl you are, living alone in a bungalow at Tariq Road is utter lunacy. Every Karachite is quite evident of the fact that the city still has a high crime rate where burglars do a thorough Reiki of the area first and then set their trap. Won’t they know by now that there is a young girl of age 26-27 living all alone having no family alive of her own residing with herself. It is quite unbelievable that she hasn’t been looted yet. Secondly, how can you be so dumb to trust your friend this much? I do give it a benefit of doubt though because yes, foolishness exists and unfortunately, in a wide number.

Story prolongs further. Hayat and Zaki are back to Pakistan where they got to know that Hayat’s house is sold to Zaki’s father (Arjumand Hussain) and Hayat’s father (Imran Peerzada) who abandoned her during childhood is Nida’s dad as well. Thus, making Hayat and Nida the conventional duo of unmatched step siblings. Now Zaki who has been dating Nida since long, fought his parents to marry her and even disliked Hayat for being a reason for their near break-up due to her silliness. But he is now…Ladies and Gentlemen….in love with Hayat. How do you fall in and out of love so randomly? Nida has sensed it obviously and is now making evil plans to create differences. And Nida is the vamp here because she is going against her sweet sibling who had such a terrible childhood. WTF I mean! That guy is freaking two timing in a way. If you see your man flirting or having feelings for any other girl, irrespective of your relationship with her, wouldn’t you act the same? Also, Nida’s character is the mediocre snobby rich model who is unable to have an adult conversation. We already are a nation of generating stereotypes and busy in reinforcing them time after time. Earlier in the drama, Zaki’s father was shown having a discussion with his wife regarding his son’s inconsistency to maintain relationships. He goes through a phase and thinks that love has arrived. Later, he loses his interest and moves ahead. I mean, Kudos to Nida for putting up with such a guy. The right way would have been that somebody should have counselled her to leave that mercurial brat and find some sensible man.

And then again, since Nida grew up being Daddy’s Princess, it would technically make her pompous or uppity. Bull Shit! She is shown an independent career-oriented young model trying to balance her relationship along with her work. What is so wrong with that? We live in a society where men are intimidated by strong, opinionated women. Rishta Aunties are often seen advising such ladies to either leave their jobs or practice being more ‘dependent’ type since it makes them look more appealing. Don’t you think a man being intimated have got anything to do with the women being too strong? It’s more about the guy being too weak. An insecure man has the capacity to drag you down quicker than a crack head would. Hayat being the gullible kind of girl is what caught Zaki’s eyes maybe and yes, match made in heaven. Sad is that Zaki’s father, who himself was worried about his son being temperamental, is encouraging his son to ditch Nida and marry Hayat. No-one would want a self-confident bahu right? Unfortunate to see that even after years of disastrous incidents, women still are taught to be naïve.

The storyline has become quite predictable now. It is hinting towards Hayat’s colleague developing a love interest towards her. Currently he is shown on an ego trip but like all the stale plots, this puffed-up dude would melt down and fall for her. But that doesn’t matter because in the end, it seems highly probable that Hayat would realize how much she loves her sister’s long-term boyfriend and will get married to him. Nevertheless, ratings ahead:

Storyline: 2/5
Acting: 4/5
Dialogues: 3.5/5
Direction: 4/5
OST: 2/5

Monday, April 3, 2017

Bachi Chahiye?

Courtesy: MangoBaaz

The picture above is taken from an article few days back regarding dating tips for guys on how-not-to-remain-single in 2017. This blogpost is not about that article so in case you are here in hopes of me critically analyzing it (as if I don’t want too), this is not your day. This blog is about the term ‘Bachi’

For all my non-desi readers,
Bachi (Ba-a-chi): Small girl
Chahiye (Cha-he-ye): Want
Literally translating into, do you want a small girl?

Yes, the translation sounds very wrong in many ways. Before you term us a pedophilic nation, I would like to inform you that ‘Bachi’ is a term which we use for our girlfriends or girls we want as our girlfriends; Just like you use the word ‘Baby’ which literally means a toddler or little girl/boy.

Question is that have you ever pondered on the fact that using the same terminology for a little girl and a grown-up woman could actually mess up our brain?

Not all men are thirsty perverts trying to gawk on the feminine gender. It’s just that men genuinely don’t realize the implications of these terminologies. Most guys believe that relating us to an innocent child is flattering which is rightly the case for most women. Many of us behave in a girlish manner in desire of being applauded by their significant other. But it is leaving some disastrous impacts on the minds of many young men and society in general. A very common example is of child beauty pageants were young girls are turned into porcelain dolls to impress the judges. They are dressed up as grown women with heavy makeup and provocative clothing.

We all hear news about little girls as young as 2 or 3 years old being raped and assaulted. Many of the accused are not even pedophiles. They just do it because their preference of a victim is a female, despite of her age. I don’t know by his point how many of you are agreeing to what I am saying and to be honest, I don’t have any scientific theory or successful experiment to support my argument. All what I am talking about came from general observation. It’s almost impossible to argue that women are not sexualized and objectified in their day to day encounters. Referring an adult woman with a word that strictly describes an underage girl is not only an extension of the problem but it also perpetuates it.

It’s a farfetched example, but I think the way people have begun using the word ‘Bitch’ so commonly is no different. We don’t think about a female dog while calling someone ‘Bitch’ but that in reality is the dictionary definition of the word. As a capable, driven, learned women, we are well-aware that such derogatory terms are nothing but rude and unnecessary.

I may get hate from females for voicing against terms they find cute and sweet but come on ladies, even in English language alone there are approximately 1,025,109 words. As educated young people there is absolutely no reason we can’t find alternatives words to describe how we feel about someone.

Thank you to all the ones reading. Glad we had this talk.

This post is written as part of the #AtoZChallenge 2017 for the letter ‘B’ 

The challenge gave me an excuse to revive my beloved blogosphere again. I will be writing on a different theme as per the alphabet. All the ones reading are warmly welcome to comment, connect and enjoy this ride with me.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Alpha Male, or Are you?

Living in a Brown society, we believe that being born with a male genital organ automatically makes you Supreme Authority a.k.a The Alpha Male. According to our dictionaries (Nanis’ and Dadis’),

1.        The Alpha is a male obviously
2.        He has a strong masculine energy even if he looks like a feeble maggot in reality
3.        He is not afraid to hold his ground even if it destroys the household
4.        Very famous for killing dreams

So, for all the Desis' reading, what is exactly an Alpha Male? Le me explain:

'As per the animal kingdom, the most brute and courageous gets the title of the Alpha but in a man’s world, an Alpha is more than just that. He is a man who wants to lead a life to its fullest, achieving all that he hopes for and be a part of other’s achievements too.'

Still it’s hard to decipher, isn’t it? Specially for the ladies who often mistake a sweet swagger for an Alpha.

Not to worry! Here is a list of the five dead-certain signs that he is not an Alpha. Guys, kindly take note too and straighten your shenanigans.

1. Using slangs is not portraying you as dominant. A man who needs to support his statement with a derogatory remark is not man enough to be honest.

2. Naggers, complainers, don’t we all hate them, right? We often stereotype women for making a fuss out of small things, but when a male does that, ah be warned. Sure it’s okay to blurt a bunch of complaints out occasionally but repeating that cycle is not good. Instead, focus on dealing with it.

3. Bullying is not acceptable at all. Degrading someone who is weak is a clear sign of being a loser. You only take on a real fight when it’s necessary

4. Yes, men gossip too! but they call it networking instead. This isn't a question of backwards thinking that Oh why can’t men gossip? This is about fundamental characteristics associated with being a man who prefer addressing the issue rather than tearing others down with crass talk.

5. Being authoritative doesn’t make you always right. Accepting your faults makes it much easier to rectify the problem.

This post is written as part of the #AtoZChallenge 2017 for the letter ‘A’ 

The challenge gave me an excuse to revive my beloved blogosphere again. I will be writing on a different theme as per the alphabet. All the ones reading are warmly welcome to comment, connect and enjoy this ride with me.