Monday, April 3, 2017

Bachi Chahiye?

Courtesy: MangoBaaz

The picture above is taken from an article few days back regarding dating tips for guys on how-not-to-remain-single in 2017. This blogpost is not about that article so in case you are here in hopes of me critically analyzing it (as if I don’t want too), this is not your day. This blog is about the term ‘Bachi’

For all my non-desi readers,
Bachi (Ba-a-chi): Small girl
Chahiye (Cha-he-ye): Want
Literally translating into, do you want a small girl?

Yes, the translation sounds very wrong in many ways. Before you term us a pedophilic nation, I would like to inform you that ‘Bachi’ is a term which we use for our girlfriends or girls we want as our girlfriends; Just like you use the word ‘Baby’ which literally means a toddler or little girl/boy.

Question is that have you ever pondered on the fact that using the same terminology for a little girl and a grown-up woman could actually mess up our brain?

Not all men are thirsty perverts trying to gawk on the feminine gender. It’s just that men genuinely don’t realize the implications of these terminologies. Most guys believe that relating us to an innocent child is flattering which is rightly the case for most women. Many of us behave in a girlish manner in desire of being applauded by their significant other. But it is leaving some disastrous impacts on the minds of many young men and society in general. A very common example is of child beauty pageants were young girls are turned into porcelain dolls to impress the judges. They are dressed up as grown women with heavy makeup and provocative clothing.

We all hear news about little girls as young as 2 or 3 years old being raped and assaulted. Many of the accused are not even pedophiles. They just do it because their preference of a victim is a female, despite of her age. I don’t know by his point how many of you are agreeing to what I am saying and to be honest, I don’t have any scientific theory or successful experiment to support my argument. All what I am talking about came from general observation. It’s almost impossible to argue that women are not sexualized and objectified in their day to day encounters. Referring an adult woman with a word that strictly describes an underage girl is not only an extension of the problem but it also perpetuates it.

It’s a farfetched example, but I think the way people have begun using the word ‘Bitch’ so commonly is no different. We don’t think about a female dog while calling someone ‘Bitch’ but that in reality is the dictionary definition of the word. As a capable, driven, learned women, we are well-aware that such derogatory terms are nothing but rude and unnecessary.

I may get hate from females for voicing against terms they find cute and sweet but come on ladies, even in English language alone there are approximately 1,025,109 words. As educated young people there is absolutely no reason we can’t find alternatives words to describe how we feel about someone.

Thank you to all the ones reading. Glad we had this talk.

This post is written as part of the #AtoZChallenge 2017 for the letter ‘B’ 

The challenge gave me an excuse to revive my beloved blogosphere again. I will be writing on a different theme as per the alphabet. All the ones reading are warmly welcome to comment, connect and enjoy this ride with me.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Alpha Male, or Are you?

Living in a Brown society, we believe that being born with a male genital organ automatically makes you Supreme Authority a.k.a The Alpha Male. According to our dictionaries (Nanis’ and Dadis’),

1.        The Alpha is a male obviously
2.        He has a strong masculine energy even if he looks like a feeble maggot in reality
3.        He is not afraid to hold his ground even if it destroys the household
4.        Very famous for killing dreams

So, for all the Desis' reading, what is exactly an Alpha Male? Le me explain:

'As per the animal kingdom, the most brute and courageous gets the title of the Alpha but in a man’s world, an Alpha is more than just that. He is a man who wants to lead a life to its fullest, achieving all that he hopes for and be a part of other’s achievements too.'

Still it’s hard to decipher, isn’t it? Specially for the ladies who often mistake a sweet swagger for an Alpha.

Not to worry! Here is a list of the five dead-certain signs that he is not an Alpha. Guys, kindly take note too and straighten your shenanigans.

1. Using slangs is not portraying you as dominant. A man who needs to support his statement with a derogatory remark is not man enough to be honest.

2. Naggers, complainers, don’t we all hate them, right? We often stereotype women for making a fuss out of small things, but when a male does that, ah be warned. Sure it’s okay to blurt a bunch of complaints out occasionally but repeating that cycle is not good. Instead, focus on dealing with it.

3. Bullying is not acceptable at all. Degrading someone who is weak is a clear sign of being a loser. You only take on a real fight when it’s necessary

4. Yes, men gossip too! but they call it networking instead. This isn't a question of backwards thinking that Oh why can’t men gossip? This is about fundamental characteristics associated with being a man who prefer addressing the issue rather than tearing others down with crass talk.

5. Being authoritative doesn’t make you always right. Accepting your faults makes it much easier to rectify the problem.

This post is written as part of the #AtoZChallenge 2017 for the letter ‘A’ 

The challenge gave me an excuse to revive my beloved blogosphere again. I will be writing on a different theme as per the alphabet. All the ones reading are warmly welcome to comment, connect and enjoy this ride with me.